Sangita Patel is Streets of Toronto’s new advice columnist and was previously an entertainment reporter with ET Canada. She lives in Toronto with her husband and two daughters.
Dear Sangita: My kid got Taylor Swift tickets, but now she wants to ditch her friends and sell them for a huge profit. Should I let her? — Profiteering parent
Dear Profiteering: Yes! I know you got her the tickets, so the question might be, will you get a cut from the sale? Of course, if she’s a huge Taylor Swift fan, maybe it’s worth discussing — she may want to reconsider and actually go to the event and enjoy it. But if she’s thinking business and she wants to make a profit, I say go for it! You taught your kid to be confident and know the value of a dollar — you’ve done a good job. As for ditching her friends, well, she should tell them up front that she won’t be going. Maybe she should tell them to sell their Taylor Swift tickets too!
Dear Sangita: I went out for drinks with my dad last week, and he decided to tell me that he cheated on my mom … 12 years ago. I think he wants me to keep it a secret, but he didn’t ask me to. This is weighing on me, and I feel horribly for my mom. What do I do? — Accidental mediator
Dear Accidental: The relationship is already ruined. For him to do something like that, there was clearly already some kind of issue. I was once told by someone that they cheated on their partner, and I gave them 48 hours to tell their partner; otherwise, I told them I would. You need to tell your dad to tell your mom; this is not on you. I know it was 12 years ago, but your mother still has the right to know. Maybe she’s over it, maybe she’ll be more forgiving because it happened so many years ago, or maybe this is her out to get out of the relationship. It’s not your responsibility to control their happiness as a couple.
The fact that your dad told you makes me think he wants it out there. Maybe he’s feeling guilt or maybe he wants out of the relationship. Either way, you’re not the one breaking up your parents. It’s already broken. Through all of this, you need to take care of yourself mentally and physically because this is going to be a burden on you more than anybody else. But step back and let your parents deal with it.
Dear Sangita: Since my last boyfriend, I promised myself I would date around a bit before entering anything serious. Right now I’m dating two different guys — who both asked me out on Valentine’s Day. They don’t know about each other yet. Is it bad for me to go on two dates on Valentine’s Day without telling them? — Double dater
Dear Double: First of all, that’s a lot of work — to go on a date with two guys on Valentine’s Day! I think you should probably decide which one you want to be with on Valentine’s Day. And for the other guy, just reschedule to another day. I like the fact that you’re trying to figure out what you want. You absolutely don’t have to tell each of them you’re dating the other person, unless you had said beforehand to either of them that you’re both going to be exclusive. The fact that you were asked by both of them is great, but you should pick one and really enjoy the night and feel the love.
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